Thoughts of a Prairie Homemaker

Since I was asked if I blogged I decided to play with it and see what I came up with.This is a collection of my thoughts on a day to day basis. I hope it entertains or enlightens you even a little!

Saturday, September 24, 2005

Busy days

The last couple days have been kinda hard. Though they have had their fun spots, like Thursday evening watching the neighbor’s chicken, well one of them run crazily around my yard! Yesterday one of his goats jumped the fence and was happily munching the weeds in my yard.

Yesterday evening I went and talked to the recruiters. The Staff SGT was there and said he had not been told Chris was again in MRP, he says they may not know anything until Wednesday about his condition, the doctors must make out their reports first.

Today we went to town to pay a bill, and stopped at a $1 a bag yard sale. I got some recyclable kitchen things, a printer (that works perfect and has ink even!) A couple of skirts some new in package candles and I forget what else for the grand sum of $2!

We came home to a dead lawnmower. MJ is going to take it apart tomorrow and see if tinkering will get it running. The dryer also chose tonight to die on us, not sure yet what we can do about that one yet. So far in one eek we lost the AC, the lawnmower and now the dryer.

I did get some good mail though, I got an oak tree! It is about 12 inches tall and we are planting it tomorrow once we figure out where we want it. I also go an ebay purchase, but the lady sent me the wrong order… I emailed her, and I am not upset about it, mistakes happen.

I am feeling better, my loving hubby brought me a pepsi and a snickers home Thursday night to help ease my stress levels! He knows I usually need caffeine or chocolate or both when stress gets high. I am doing better with my goal of not drinking pepsi, though with the fall weather I will have to keep some on hand for allergy attacks. I have been averaging about 3 32 Styrofoam cups of ice water a day this last week, much better than the tea and soda I normally drink!

The evenings are so cool just now we sit on the porch and watch the moonrise.

Today Drew helped move some furniture around. I moved the sewing machine into the dining room, since it is cooler in there during the day hopefully I can do more sewing! Then we moved MJ’s dresser to where the sewing machine was. We brought in the shelf that we found in the shed and made it a head board, to place the fans on so we can sleep at night. Moved stuff around in the dining room so it now holds the table, 4 chairs, corner table, microwave cart, sewing machine and a small shelf to store my fabric and notions on. My file cart where I want to keep my patterns slides under the folded out part of the sewing machine table. It looks a touch crowded, but it all fits and it all functions!

Now I am tired, I am still worried about Chris, but he knows God has a plan for him, it maybe God has chosen the Marines for him, I hope he enjoys his work as a law clerk. Staff SGT told me yesterday if he has asthma they will let him out, but if not they will keep him in, and that he is almost past the hard part, once you “go up north” it is down hill from there. I hope for Chris’ sake he is right! If it is stress only Chris needs to learn to handle it, but if it is actually sickness, then he needs to get out.

On a happier note, my oldest boy, Drew is to be baptized tomorrow! I am glad he has chosen to join God’s people!

Well y’all I am bushed so I am going off to bed! Y’all have an awesome Lord’s Day!

Hugs

mel

Thursday, September 22, 2005

I am MAD....


No worse I am livid, I am out of sorts and just plain no fun!

Over the last 2 days we have gone round and round with the vonage people, we have worked with our internet people and I have had it! Fortunately vonage finally agreed maybe the problem is in their box. Lucky for them…

Last night we got a call from Chris, he is in MRP but was not originally sent for his difficulty breathing, but because his knees were swollen and painful. Now from what his SDI said he was sending Chris there because he has trouble breathing, NOT because something is now also wrong with his knees! OK so he went in last week for his knees and they iced them down and gave him a sheet of exercises to do to improve things, only it didn’t things got worse. So now the plan is… for him not to bend his knees unless he absolutely has to, until Monday. I can not even begin to explain how I feel about those instructions. Just imagine smoke out of my ears and my face turning purple. He goes to the Naval hospital today for a breathing test (which we are all hoping he fails).

Now for the punch line. His SDI assured us that they would call to let us know where Chris was. Well he only got to call last night because hurricane Rita is headed for Texas and we are set to get part of it. So that is twice his SDI promised to have him call me and twice he did not do so. To top that off, the vonage phone cut out and we could not talk so Chris had to go get permission to call again on the tellular line, which we got vonage to replace because it has a habit of hanging up on us. Pretty bad when your phone choices are unreliable and more unreliable!

I am angry, I miss my son and by now it should be obvious he does not belong there. He even apologized for not wanting to complete boot, saying he hopes we do not think down on him for it. This is what hurts the most, we only let him join in the first place cuz we thought it was what he wanted to do. It tears my heart every time I read his letters or hear his voice and it just gets worse as time goes on.

I am not at all feeling myself, I feel like crying over every little thing, and I am so listless it is not even funny. All I care about is Chris coming home right now, and I won’t even know if he might for at least a week!

Now I KNOW it is all working to God’s plan, and so knowing that, I can only imagine how I would be doing if I did NOT know that.

To add to my bad feelings today is the 5th anniversary of my father’s death. I did not know him well, but he loved me and he loved my boys for the short 6 years we had together.

Well enough whining tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet. I will go busy myself with dishes and forget the cats that are driving me nuts and the Marines who are supposed to be examples of truth justice and the American way, and the phone that doesn’t let me talk to anyone, and I will focus on having good things to give MJ and Drew for supper and dishes to wash instead.

I will also suck down gallons of ice water cuz it is HOT in here (yes the ac went out again!)

Prayers going out for all in the path of this new storm, may God be merciful and shield you all.

Hugs

mel

Tuesday, September 20, 2005

Is it possible?

Is it possible to catch a cold online? Probably not, must be MJ then he has been feeling under the weather for a week, and suddenly last night, I got hit with sinus pain and sore throat! It could be an allergy to the weeds I pulled by the fence last night, but I don’t know. I took one of those cold and sinus pills and now I have a sinus headache, sore throat AND I have felt sleepy and loopy all the blessed day!

There still is no word from DB#2 we hope he is feeling better though. I miss my boy's ready grin, I hope he has not lost it!

I did get it together this morning and made stew for supper. I have no bell peppers for it, but we can live. I can not believe it is peak of harvest and they are still .58c each! I really hope my plans for the garden work next spring, I do not like depending on the store from my fresh and frozen items!

DB#! Has a government project he is working on with his group. They intend to dress up like poor folks, ripped clothes and such and ask folks in the mall questions on voting laws. They intend to make a video out of this… it sounds interesting, strange too.

I am reading a book recommended by a lady on my message board called Ellie, I got it yesterday. It is pretty good, better than the Beverly Lewis books. I can’t read those they irk me. So far this one has not done that. The story is of a young Amish girl and her family. This book is the first in the series and if I enjoy it I will find the others, in sequence and read them as well. It is by Mary Christner Borntrager. Normally I am more a Jannette Oke fan, or the little house books (I have 1 Martha year, and all the Caroline through Rose years. I am really hoping for more Caroline years!) I like the pioneer stories and am not into modern fiction at all. Though a few caught my fancy.

It is funny now in the afternoons I hear the school busses come by and I no longer have any boys on them! My youngest is now an adult!

Well I suppose I ought to go finish up a few small kitchen chores. MJ and BD#1 will be home about 530 for supper. Then we will watch some tv and I will knit or read while we do. I love our evenings together, even if one is missing, and I hope he is soon to return!

Hugs y’all have a wonderful evening!

mel

Monday, September 19, 2005

Musings


Something that has been on my mind lately is the amount of modernness (is that a word?) in many bible studies now days. It seems there are so many “experts” on what the bible says that most feel incapable of reading and understanding it for themselves. I hear often the way some folks think, and I want to address some of these things. Please note, I am NOT an expert, I have as many questions for God when I die as anyone else, but He does give us some “rules” for a godly life.

One thing folks talk about is a woman’s place in church. This can be a touchy subject if one uses feelings as a guide. One preacher told me once there were women preachers in the NT. When I asked him who he said read it and see. So I did, I read the NT front to back and reverse, many times. I never have found any women preachers. I did find Peter and Paul both saying women are to be silent in the church. So how can a woman, who is supposed to be silent, be a preacher? I have yet to figure that out, because if a woman is to be silent, she can not talk from the pulpit, period.

1 Cor. 14:34 Let your women keep silence in the churches for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.

Also in

1 Tim. 2: Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.

1Ti 2:12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.

1Ti 2:13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve.

1Ti 2:14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.

Another area that concerns me is the idea that we must do nothing to accept salvation. Many use the reasoning that works can not save us. Yes this is true, we can not work our way into heaven. How ever I see no bible verse telling us we have no work to do.

Put in ordinary human terms, if your uncle gives you a gift of $100 in a check, can you spend it? Think before you answer. Many folks say yes, but if you take that $100 check to the store, they wont let you use it for payment! You must first go cash the check! The same is true of God’s gift, there are things you must do to accept it. He was sure to write them down, and He never changed the rules! What did he tell us to do? The gift in the check is not accepted until it is cashed.

In Acts 2:38 we are told to repent and be baptized for the remission of sins. Now there are a couple things the people had already done too, they had heard the word of God preached, they believed the word of God they had heard, and they confessed they had done wrong! So that is 5 steps we are given examples of. Now many folks say baptism is not needed, well Jesus saw it differently. In Matthew 3:10 -17 is the story of He Himself, the holy one of God, being baptized, why? According to verse 15 it was to “fulfill all righteousness”. So in this world where we must do nothing but say we accept Jesus, He said He needed to be baptized… if He needed it, then I need it so much more! Now yes there are verses that say Faith saves us, but think about this, if you have Faith, will you not act on it? Remember Faith without works is dead! In James it is stated repeatedly that Faith with out works is of no value, and in James 2:18 it says:

James 2:18 Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: show me thy faith without thy works, and I will show thee my faith by my works.

If we have Faith, we will have works too, if our Faith be true.

One thing I have said over and over is, I do not believe in religion. Faith is pure and of God, religion is mankind’s attempt to pigeon hole God and make Him easy to handle. The proof? Where does the bible say the rules will change? How many religions change the rules to fit society’s ideas?

For instance, I was raised in the church of Christ religion. Now I was taught mostly to ignore the Old Testament and follow the new, that the Old Testament was done away, but for certain things brought forward, like 9 of the 10 commandments. How ever, in my own study I discovered more things the OT says that were brought forward. For instance our manner of dress is outlined. We are to dress as Sara, and the women of old.

Examples are:

1Ti 2:9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.

And

1Pe 3:5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:

1Pe 3:6 Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

So this shows us the manner of dress from the OT is not forsaken, women must still dress as women. The apostles brought it forward in time so that we know how we are to act.

Many religions now say some of the bible is cultural, only for that specific time or place, but I do not see any verses to support this. I see no verse that says, “if society changes and says wearing clothes and hair that look like the men is ok, then go ahead and forget the verses where I said do this and that.” They just are not there.

One place where this gives religions trouble now days is head covering. Should women cover and keep their hair long? I say yes. Why? Because if you read 1 Cor. 11:1-16 you see specific instruction, and if you really read it; it is clear.

1Co 11:1 Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.

1Co 11:2 Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you.

1Co 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

1Co 11:4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonors his head.

1Co 11:5 But every woman that prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven.

1Co 11:6 For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered.

1Co 11:7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.

1Co 11:8 For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man.

1Co 11:9Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

1Co 11:10 For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels.

1Co 11:11 Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.

1Co 11:12 For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.

1Co 11:13 Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered?

1Co 11:14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?

1Co 11:15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.

1Co 11:16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.

One of the crucial verses is this one, “For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered” Putting it in today’s American it says, if a woman is uncovered let her hair be cut off. Now for those who say a woman’s covering is her hair, why would Paul say this? It makes no sense to say, now if a woman has no hair let her hair be cut off…

Some point to the verse that says judge for yourselves… but the verse AFTER it says does not nature tell you about hair? If a man has long hair it is a shame for him, it is therefore not a shame for a woman.

Others go to the verse that says, there is no such custom in the churches, however the verse indicates that the “custom” is not covering, but being contentious!

Yes women are to cover, if we are to pray, especially if we are teachers of women!

It is apparent in verse 2 that Paul had given them these and other ordinances before this letter.

There are many truths in the bible, but to get to them we MUST obey the verse in 2 Timothy:

2 Ti 2:15 Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that need not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.

2Ti 2:16 But shun profane and vain babblings: for they will increase unto more ungodliness.

In other words, do not take my words for it, study God’s word for yourself, and don’t take the word of preachers, teachers and experts either, study God’s word for yourself. Always remember, God would not waste His time to give us commands we do not need to follow!

Hugs y’all have a blessed day, I hope I have given you some things to think over!

mel

Sunday, September 18, 2005

Ah the weekend!

Saturday

Well today was a nice quiet day. DB#1 was off at his girls house, they were celebrating her brothers girlfriends birthday… make sense?

MJ and I went to town early, got the van an oil change and got groceries.

I had planned to do some sewing today but MJ is sick and not feeling well so I spent most of my time keeping him company.

Tomorrow I hope to get some things done.

No word from DB#2 yet on where he is. I hope we find out something soon!

I wrote the lady who is organizing my family reunion, I can not go this year, hopefully for the next one I can, we might have planned it this year, had the invite not gone to an address that is about 6 years old! Plus now with DB#2 coming home or not being in the air we would not wish to leave home now!

Wow I can not believe it is only 10pm and I am beat, I didn’t even do anything today!

Sunday

Another quiet day on the homestead. We watched football, the Eagles rocked!

I know TO has a big mouth, but that dude can sure run!

I miss my darling boy when we watch football, he enjoys the game so much! I do hope we get another note soon! It seems he writes on Sundays and we get them on Thursdays, but with him being in the infirmary I do not know what to expect!

Some one on Free Cycle has offered their little brother today. LOL I bet many folks are often tempted to do that!

Tomorrow will be a big day for me, time to get my routines going again! This last week has been mostly a loss, with no real work getting done! An online friend has recommended vinegar to help rid our land of the sticker grass, and so tomorrow I plan to test it on a patch. I did get some roundup, but it would take about $50 worth of it to do what I need done! Plus the vinegar would kill the plants, but not harm the soil incase I want to plant there next spring. Though right now I am planning on making raised beds over the winter.

We are looking at paint samples too, we know we want 2 shades of blue, one for the basic color and 1 for the windows and trim. What I cant decide is do we do a darker blue (the existing color is a grayish blue) for the basic, or stick to the medium blue as it is now, and use the darker for the trim... this is my first inclination. The white, while I understand its ability to not draw sun to the windows, shows dirt much to quickly, and this being farm and ranch country, and me living next to a mini farm, there is a TON of dust in the air, and it looks as if it all landed on my window frames!

Well I am going to go revive an old tradition, when I first left home and moved into a rented room, the homes owner and I always watched football on Sunday after church and then a John Wayne movie in the afternoon. MJ bought me 2 John Wayne movies and one I have never seen all the way through. It is called Angel and the Bad Man, and I have always wanted to see it! Though MJ I think has already begun a Star Gate so I may have to wait!

AAAAAAA pop corn here I come!

Y’all have a lovely afternoon!

Hugs
mel

Friday, September 16, 2005

Well!

Well, we got another letter from my darlin boy #2. Apparently 2 recruits in his platoon refuse to obey the instructors. So, as is the policy, the entire platoon gets punished due to the mess ups of these 2 guys!

On top of this, he is getting ill, seriously so! He says he is doing his best but he still feels it was a mistake to join and he is looking forward to getting done and out. (4 years)

Well after we got the letter, about 430 last night we got a call. My darling boy #2 is really sick, it seems the Marines did not get a really good family history. They asked us if anyone here has asthma… well yeah, MJ had it as a kid, Darlin boy #1 had it as a kid, and I developed it as an adult when DB#1 was about 2. So DB#2 is on his way to MRP and then the Naval hospital, because if it is asthma, they do not want him and will send him home and he should be here in 2 -3 weeks! Now I have never considered asthma as an answer to prayer, but in this case I think it just might be!

To me that sounds like an awful thing to say but after rereading all of his letters, we have gotten 4, he did make a serious mistake, no he is not panicked about it now and has accepted that he must live with it, but he knows in himself it was a mistake. He is just not Marine material. Could he mentally make it though boot? Yes he could, mentally he probably excels, and in drills and motor skills he is probably well off as well, it is the heavy stuff he has trouble with, and perhaps that is why his asthma never was uncovered here. We don’t have 100 lb packs and 3 mile hikes to do, just easy stuff like mowing the grass and takin out trash. In any case, he said he hopes our prayers work for him because everything he has prayed for has turned against him. I feel so badly for him! So I will pray for God’s will, and hope that in this case His will is as mine is, and my DB will soon be home!

On the home front, we have decided to sell the boat, we figure I can’t drive it anyway, and DB#1 it seems has other plans, so why not sell it and put the money either into a “bubble” car for me or into the van, get the ac fixed and such. $400 for a decent running, though UGLY car is not so bad.

Skeeter’s vet trip has been moved to Monday, I am just not long enough to drive the van, and MJ will go in late Monday in order to take him, or perhaps he will drop him off tomorrow, either way he will get done on Monday!

Today is such a lazy day for me I just have no energy, no drive to do anything! I want a large meal I think, steak or roast… to bad all I have his ground beef! Lol It is hard to get my mind around the possibility of not going to CA in Nov or Dec. though I will enjoy not making the trip. I lived in CA for 10 years and I have no desire to ever return, though DB is definitely worth the sacrifice!

I just went outside to move the car, and it is so nice out! I stayed out and weeded a little and watered, cleaned out the car and cleared some recent junk off the porch. I do think today I will wash the rest of the free cycle jars, I try to grab a few each time I go outside. We use the wide mouth mayonnaise jars as drinking glasses and there are several more out there!

Well I am off to join the wonderful world of little house and see what happens next to Caroline and her family.

Hugs y’all have an awesome day!

mel

Wednesday, September 14, 2005

Good news! And on my mind


First of all, the good news! My boy wrote me again! He is doing fine, still wants out but says if that is not possible, at least the Marines will be a life. He has requested a packet of paper, pens, stamps and a small address book with every ones addresses in it. It was nice to hear him talk normally again!

There is a lot on my mind lately. Right now I am in the process of deep sweeping my house, you know, under couches and beds and such. Today I redid the pc plugs in my room and moved my sewing machine around. I also hung (via staple gun) some curtains.

I also stapled a huge (king-size) bed spread to my .25c rocker, trying to cover up the ‘70s golden and orange stripes. I am not sure I like the affect, but it is better than having miles of spread around the chair! Until I figure out something else to do, it will stay. I love staple guns, so handy, and duct tape, gotta have duct tape!

Later this evening I plan to go do some weeding and watering. I need to give my yard some more attention! A big tractor came and mowed down the jungle next door so now my taller than normal prairie grass really sticks out!

I am wondering if all my money orders I sent out Friday have made it to their destinations too, and when I may expect the ebay things my spending money purchased. I have a letter to write tomorrow to go with some aprons I need to finish, and of course more to write Chris.

I am hoping this weekend to find the material to make my first dress out of, or skirt, I can’t decide which I will try first. Gerrie, one of my best buddies says I will soon be addicted to sewing! I am already addicted to planning what I want to sew!

One of my goals this weekend is to get the yard mowed. I am tempted to do some of it myself but I always get yelled at for it, the guys say it is their job and they do not want me helping… I also need to get some vinegar or round up to pour on the sticker grass!

I love this area; I will like it better once we have the jungle under control. I still need to decide what to do with the chicken coop. I may move it up a bit closer to the house and redo it so it becomes a potting shed… there is enough fence around it… painted a horrid orange but still its there, to cross almost ½ the back of the yard, and probably enough rolled fence next to MJ’s shed to make it the rest of the way, that is also on my fall agenda, to get us fenced. There are some big dogs that get let loose on occasion and I am not fond of them getting in my yard!

Not sure what I will do as far as the garden. Right now I am thinking work slowly over the fall and winter on making raised beds in the side yard. I have some old bricks I could use to make at least 1, and a raised bed with black paper under it would cut down on the weeds and sticker grass.

Well it is noon and I am behind on my 15s! Though I only need to work a little in the kitchen and bathroom and do one load of laundry today so it will take no time to get done! I also need to wash more of the freecycle jars and find a spot for them!

Y’all have a wonderful after noon!

Hugs

mel

Sunday, September 11, 2005

Busy day!


Well Saturday dawned bright and lovely. The temps are cooling now, it only hit 92! Today’s high should be high 80s. I love the cooling weather, though we are not done with our hot days yet.

We left the home place headed for town about 1020. We got to MJ’s buddy’s house around 11 and they began working on the brakes. After bleeding them they still did not work, so buddy used his tools (we really desire an air compressor!) to take off the wheels and discovered in the right rear wheel a broken caliper. So off the “boys” went to the parts store to find a replacement. We were there until 330, and I sat in the shade and read. Then while MJ hooked up the pc we traded for the work, I sat inside and played with his doggies. A gorgeous black lab that I would claim in a heart beat and a very bouncy Chihuahua.

Still no word from Chris, we are taking a no news is good news view, though it is hard and I miss him so! We sent him off a birthday card with some stamps in it. I found out on the Marine Moms site, to only use simple American flag stamps… wish I had known that last week before I sent off 3 letters with flowers…

MJ and I took the van for inspection after doing the brake work, and it did not pass, because… his seat belt did not retract… I am sorry but that is the dumbest rule I have heard of yet! So he and Drew will be working on it today, and putting up the mirror and fixing the passenger front door.

We are deciding if we wish to really keep the boat or sell it, get the radiator and ac fixed in the van, and then follow the original plan to use our taxes to buy me a small car in February. I can not see well in big cars so I never drive either the boat or the van. I like small cars, and since I only go to town once a week to do groceries anyway, I do not need a big one. MJ is tired of doing the shopping with me, and I do save money when I go alone, no chips or sodas make it into my cart that way!

This morning I awoke with a sore face, at 300 am! I can not decide if it is my sinus swelled and putting pressure on my teeth or the other way round. I do have a lot of sinus trouble. My goal is to get some selenium and take it (1 in the morning 1 in the evening) and 3,000 mg vitamin C, cheaper and faster working than a visit to the doc for antibiotics. Plus if it doesn’t wok I can always go to the doc later! If it is the teeth the selenium will work, though I can’t get any today the health food store is closed! If it is sinus the vitamin c will help, but it won’t go away. I will just have to wrestle with it while I wait for the selenium to be available. In the mean time I can take the vitamin c, I keep lots of it on hand!

Well since I got nothing done on the home place yesterday I have to at least do laundry today. Normally the house gets a going over and the laundry gets done on Saturday and on Sunday I read. I do think it is good to have 1 day of rest each week. It recharges the soul and refreshes the mind for the coming week!

MJ has been told to expect 2 hours a day OT all week, he is happy. We are very blessed that he loves his job so much!

Well the washer is calling me so off I go.

I will talk some more tomorrow!

Hugs

mel

Saturday, September 10, 2005

Today...

Today…

I finished my oldest sons’ girlfriends’ apron. Next will be curtains and then I change thread and finish another 3 aprons. I have an order in for an “Italian” themed apron. It is proving hard for me to find an Italian theme material that is affordable (I can’t see paying $8 for material to make a $12 apron…).

We go tomorrow to get the brakes fixed on the van and then we will get it inspected! Then it will be totally legal! We dropped the insurance on the “boat” (1983 Pontiac Parisienne) since no one will be using it until oldest son gets his license. Next year we will look for a small car for me, so I can do shopping alone, (being short has a few disadvantages, 1 being it is hard to see out the back and far side windows!) but not until after we get my boy from boot! Nothing comes before that trip.

Tomorrow will be grocery day, I will have flour again! Today we went and I got some oranges and pears and apples. Nothing major, DH wanted milk and some cereal, but I did not have my full list so I did not get anything else. Tomorrow we have to go get stamps too, so we can send my boy more letters next week! I am hoping he is doing better and we are going on the premise of no news is good news. It still rankles that I was lied to, but I will live as long as my boy doesn’t get hurt again!

DH allowed me a bit of fun money this week to bid on some things I have wanted on ebay. I got 2 exercise videos that he says will be interesting! I also got…3 or 4 patterns for dresses and skirts, and aprons. I also got a book that was recommended by a lady on my site called Ellie. Another lady is sending me a copy of Debi Pearls book in exchange for hosting her craft booth. I am very excited as I am very choosy in my books and tend to read the same ones over and over, and now in the space of a month I will have 2 totally new ones!

I have noticed something. When we lived in the big mobile home, and were over paying the rent there, things were very stressful. Money was always tight and nothing ever seemed to go right. When we gave up trying to keep the big house (it was rent to own so no problem turning it back) and moved into this smaller, cozier, simpler home, things changed. First off we were all happier. DH became firmer in his resolve that I not work (other than on my web site and sewing). I began to be a better homemaker, I felt at home at once, the first time I walked in the door here, and 20 minutes later it was ours! True it needs work, but the work is a joy to do! Plus, suddenly after 2 years of losing hours due to no work, DH is working over time, between 8-10 hours a week! So the car is getting fixed, trash service can be started, the house will get repaired and painted, all of this of course can be done on his 40 check, but not as fast! Plus we will save money for the trip to San Diego, and since the van gets much better mileage than the car, we are saving money in many areas!

Next year I can not wait to plant the many seeds kind friends have given me! Plus one friend is sending me tree starts! They are shade trees and I hope to use them on the sides of the front yard to make our home secluded, as if we live in the woods. Another online friend is sending me…Pampas grass starts, I think that’s what she called it. Another has sent me airplane plant starts (we called ‘em spider plants back home!)

Well it is late and we need to be off early tomorrow to get the van fixed. I am so excited! Next we will look at servicing the ac unit, cuz being TX we still have many hot days before we get cooler ones! (To me it never gets truly cold here, and I do miss a bit of snow now and then!)

Hugs y’all, take care

mel

Wednesday, September 07, 2005

Well it is Wednesday

Well, it’s Wednesday…

I have to admit this week has been hard. To know my son is off 2500 miles away and hurting is bad enough, but to have his co tell me they would call me when he was reevaluated and then not do so is even worse.

I can not stand lying or being lied to.

MJ and I decided that no call just meant he was ok… then we got his next letter. The letter postmarked earlier in the evening of the day he collapsed. I know the job is all mental and that they are supposed to mess with the guys minds to remake them into a unit.

In the back of my mind though is the thought, what if they are wrong and he can’t make it? This is not a thought that will ever be sent to my son though it catches me unaware now and then.

I have reasserted my faith; it got a little bent during this mess. I will put my boy in God’s hands and will work to let God show us what he wants us to do.

I read where the Marines only have a 50% fail rate. It seemed to be a bragging point… so I guess that means my boy has a 50/50 shot. Which ever side he lands on I will be proud of him, he will give it his best, just as he gives his best in everything he does.

Awhile back on my message board there was a disturbance of sorts. A few ladies told me they were being told by their husbands to leave my forum, which is fine. Well I decided that since they had left to submit to the wills of their husbands they would not be returning and so I removed their memberships, I did not ban them, just removed their accounts from the member roles. Well I got a pm from a member saying one had tried to log in and that I ought to post the rules for banning. Then I heard another was surprised her log in was no longer valid. Now I support their wish to honor their husband’s desire for them to move on and find a new place to post. I am not so vain as to think people should only post at my board. However, in looking through the past years posts, these two women have had a sort of an oil and water effect, so I am not sorry they have moved on. I am sad that they choose to go behind their husbands backs to associate where their hubby’s have asked them not to. So my decision is since I know at least one of them wishes to reregister, do I honor her husband or her? Quite frankly I don’t know. I know to honor my husband who did wish at least one of them banned during a previous upset. I do have to wonder, for the one wishing to rejoin, I am not changing the board to fit what she says I should, the moderator that seemed to upset “many” (mind you I heard from 3 that were upset out of 100s) has been promoted and not silenced, why would she wish to return to a site that upset her so badly? I think this will be in limbo for a bit before I decide how to proceed on this one.

I am surrounded by cats! They keep taking over the mouse and key board! They are really my son’s, the one at boot and I think they feel lost and lonesome, as do we all!

Well it is about enough for now, my darling hubby will be on his way home soon, and I need to get freshened up for him.

You all have a blessed afternoon, and if ya think of it, toss in a prayer or to for me and my boy, would ya?

Hugs

mel

Monday, September 05, 2005

Welcome to Monday

Though it is not a typical Monday here, my MJ is home for Labor Day and it is so nice to have him home an extra day! We have no special plans, just spend some time together.

I was very quiet over the weekend. My son is at boot camp and he is having a really hard time, as I imagine all recruits do, and I suspect most families do not know the total extent of it, because the recruits are not allowed to call home and share it. However, somehow my son was allowed to call (we found out later the person who let him will be in hot water). It seems through a compiled set of, fatigue, being made to over eat (he is a double rations recruit which means he is probably eating 3 times what he is used to) the constant yelling and physical stress, he passed out.
That in its self would not have concerned me, but for his next sentence, “and mom, I can’t move my legs.” My darling boy of the ready grin and chuckle with the gift of jokes and love of life, sounded scared, and broken as if he were a used toy.

Even as I write this the tears threaten. Now before anyone gets too concerned my boy will be fine, we spoke again with his COs consent and his legs were improving, one was normal, the other he still had to drag along and limp with. We are to get another call tomorrow after the Dr re-evaluates him to be certain there is no long term damage. I know he needs this, I know he will regret it if he can’t finish, but folks, I want my boy home, now, today and it hurts so bad I can barely stand it. He joined the Marines because he wanted to become one of the best. Marines have changed a great deal from when I was a kid and they were known more for their fighting and brawls than anything. My boy is going into the legal division, so after boot he will get a normal life, with plenty of down time for his desired education. My goal in my letters to him is to tell him that he is loved, and we are proud of him, Marine or not, and that we know he can do this, if he wants it bad enough. What I can not do is let him know until he returns home how missing him hurts and how I worry about him daily and try hard not to cry when I think of him. 10 more weeks and we go get my boy. The time can not pass quickly enough for this mom of a future Marine.

I want every one to know, I am a military “brat” though my dad said I was an Air Force angel instead. I hold in high regard the men and women of our armed forces, I am proud my son has chosen as his career such a difficult and challenging “job”. I just wish missing him had an easy fix. I am however fortunate, I know my boy will be coming home. My heart goes out and my prayers go up for the mom’s whose children will not.

Son, when you get home if you read this, know I love you more than life itself, and I will always be proud of you.

Hugs

mel

Friday, September 02, 2005

A peek into my life.


We are a basic low income family, living pay check to pay check. We got MJ a car to drive, for $465 and then had to work to get it to pass inspection. Car parts stores no longer sell the light covers for 1983 Pontiac Parisiennes! So MJ made some!

Well things this year have been as tight, we moved out of our large house, after the owner who was financing it upped the payments by $100 suddenly. We now have our little house on the TX prairie. I love it, it felt like home the first day I walked through the door! Plus the payments are even lower than the ones before the raise! AND they include taxes and insurance, where as that was added to the old one!

Well I get off topic. Tonight MJ had just enough money left after mortgage and gas (Wal-Mart card) to get some veggies and rice to add to my freezer meats. We took Drew with us and he found one of his old friends, the son of the man who bought our van. Mike walked up to me and said “HI Mom, umm would you like your van back?” Mike is one of a group of kids that I have adopted and I love him as if he was my own. I stuttered, I sputtered, and finally I asked (knowing we have no extra money just now) “You mean you want to sell it back to us?” Mike says no, we never took it out of your name, we don’t drive it, we have another car, and we can’t afford to insure them both. I said so you want the money back, he says nope, we consider the money rental fees for using it!

We are getting our van back tomorrow! This makes so many things a little easier. First off it gets much better gas mileage than the boat we drive now. It also means that I can use the boat to take Drew to school; no more 6 am drop off times for him. (He will pay gas for these trips) I will also have it on Fridays to do groceries! The biggest thing this changes though is our trip to San Diego to bring Chris home in November or December! We don’t have to pay $250 to rent a car! The van is a 1993, full size van, with a 6 banger engine, it is perfectly drivable for the trip! We know the folks we got it from and they had the dealership do all the maintenance on it! Mike and his dad put new brakes on it about 4 months after buying it! God knew our needs and He once again met them!

On another matter, I have been listening a lot to folks commenting on Katrina and some of the attitudes I see are shocking. I think some folks complain to help them get through the bigger picture which is a lot of folks have a lot of need and most of us are powerless to help.

In any case before I even think of complaining about high gas prices, or anything else I have to consider that, I may not have much, but I am dry, I know where my family is, I have food and water. I can shower at will, and rest in my own bed. My heart aches for those people.
On my web site one or 2 folks are demanding to know why folks didn’t just pack up and leave... kinda hard when you have no money to go anywhere. Not to mention the elderly who probably had no help to get anywhere if they had a place to go. I know for us to leave here, would be close to impossible. We have no savings, and this week can barely afford the mortgage and gas for work. I don't even go to town but 1 or 2 times a week, we just flat can't afford it.
Yes the gas prices will be an added "hardship" here but like in all things, God will only give us what we can handle. (See He even provided a better MPG car!) Eventually things will even out, we will be inconvenienced for weeks, some have lost their whole life, their homes are gone, their families missing, their jobs gone, not just for now but the whole business is just gone, not closed but gone! Whole communities have been wiped out.
I don't think anyone really means to sound "selfish" but the only way to deal with such a HUGE thing is to break it down into tiny bits. Not only gas is going to go up but everything, food, clothes, all of it will be impacted.
One of our members is displaced fortunately they have my number and called; they are ok but will be with out power for 6-8 weeks on their homestead! They haven’t even been able to get back to it yet to see if any of their live stock has survived! The whole area is flooded, and they aren't even
IN LA. I really hope the spirit of the USA regains its footing soon. I am saddened by the trouble being made in an already hurting area. Our President is rising to the occasion and leading as he ought. Our allies are even working to send help! Something I myself did not expect to see. America will rise above this. It is time now for Christians to stand up and show Jesus to the world. Put works out there to show your faith! Be sure to do all things for His glory, so that He may be praised!

Hugs and blessings mel

Thursday, September 01, 2005

How I got this name

Well I have been asked how I came up with the name of my web site so I decided that might be fun to explore a bit.

Last May (2004) I joined a site called the Hillbilly Housewife. I just adore the sites owner, Miss Maggie. After several months she decided she could not longer maintain the site. She asked me would I take it over. This was the message board only, Miss Maggie still maintains, the home site, www.hillbillyhousewife.com Some know the whole story, and it is all past history not worth dredging up again. I said yes I would gladly take it, because it is a resource that many ladies need now days.

Once it became mine, I realized some stuff didn’t fit right. The name, while neat didn’t fit my vision for the site. For one thing, I have worked hard to overcome the negative aspects of being a hillbilly. Then too there was the name housewife. There was one thing my guardian and I agreed on and that was, we were not married to our houses!

So I began to think on a new name, one that would more completely describe what I wanted to encourage and help women to do. Since I live on the Texas Prairie, and love stories of the pioneers who left homes in cities and towns and established farms to begin over again on the prairies of our land, I liked that image.

Then I began thinking, what did these women do once they got to the prairies? They set out making homes. They made homes in wagons, tents, soddies, you name it, where ever shelter could be procured for their families, they were there making a home.

So, the name was born, Prairie Homemaker. Now I had to find a way to describe the purpose of the Prairie Homemaker. Prairie Homemakers stepped out into the unknown of life with a strong Faith that God held them close in the safety of His hands, so that was the first thing it needed to address. Faith, God is not only for church meetings, He is not just for times of trouble, truth Faith will inhabit every corner of a person’s life, it can not be ignored and it will change one in ways that can not be imagined. Often their worship of the Father was done as in days of old, in their home, sometimes with others sometimes with just family. Just as Jesus says, Mat 18:20 For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them. It strikes me as funny now how folks forget this, thinking the only true way to worship is in a special building.

What else did a Prairie Homemaker give thought to in her life? Easy, her family, her husband who worked long hard hours to build a livelihood from the land, which did not always cooperate! Her Children who often did not have a nearby school to attend, and so were taught by her, from the family bible or books she had saved, to read and cipher and write. Along with this they learned to work hard beside their parents, a family was not just a mom and dad supporting the kids, but the whole unit working together to support each other! (Now days a lot of kids think we owe them everything and they need not help their struggling parents at all!)

On top of the care of children there was the feeding of the family. Imagine if you can, having to work with just what you had, not being able to run to the grocer to get milk or bread. Yes some women now days can do this, I unfortunately am still working to become one! She killed and plucked the Sunday supper chicken, dug and cooked her own potatoes. Grew her own medicines! What an amazing store house of information she had to be!

What else did she do for her family? This is where the last bit comes in, Frugality! Then as now it falls to the wife more often than not to stretch the family income. She had to be savvy, and talented! She needed to be able to turn raw materials into clothes, curtains, warm quilts. She had to be able to diagnose illness, and she had to know when she needed help if it became too serious and a doctor must be sought! She had to grow and maintain the vegetables she needed to feed her family year round. She also had to be wise in her purchases of the things she could not grow or make.

What amazes me when reading many of these stories is how, she did all this, in 24 short hours each day, and she didn’t complain! She saw what needed doing and buckled up and did it!

This is what the Prairie Homemaker site is meant to build, women for whom Faith, gives them the strength of character and desire to serve their God in the way He intended, by meeting the needs of her family, and by being a good stewardess of the things her God allows her husband to provide. With out complaining! With out demanding things she does not need. Being a wife her husband can be proud of, one who has his fellow workers seeing the difference Faith makes in a wife! The bible is full of such women, the Proverbs 31 woman, the Titus 2 women and Priscilla, Paul’s good friend. These are our examples, and with God’s help, we can change the world, one family at a time!

Now if you visit the Prairie Homemaker site, you will see scriptures posted, you will see it here too. It is not that we are show offs of our knowledge, or trying to force feed it to you. It is just who we are, and we do what we do because God says to, now if you are going to do as God says, it just makes sense to show where He says it and how it is said. Besides there are many new Christians among our members, and they need to learn how to defend their Faith, and their actions too!

Now it is time for me to be creative for supper!

Hugs y’all, ‘til tomorrow!

mel

Wow what to say....

I was asked today why I have not yet written a book. While I pondered the answer I thought of many “reasons” I am not wise enough. I am not good enough. Then I began to wonder, what if folks could learn a thing or two from me though I am neither wise nor good? Do I have enough to offer to fit into a book? How does one begin the writing of a book anyway? Where would my book fit? Would it be Christian enough for the Christians? Informative enough for those who are not Christians? I have to admit the idea intrigues me. What if I write about the same things as Prairie Homemaker is about? Faith, Family and Frugality, would anyone wish to read it? Well besides the lady who asked why it wasn’t written yet.

Now the question becomes where to begin? What is actually the beginning of my journey? I seem to have some radical ideas as far as the religious folks are concerned, while at the same time I am viewed as too religious by those who aren’t moved by Faith.

So I suppose I ought to begin by telling a bit about myself. My name is Mel, short for Melissa. I shortened it because I was tired of being called Melanie, Michelle, and Melody, one poor lady even called me Martha for awhile. All of those are lovely names, they just do not happen to be MY name!

My interests run a huge gamut. I enjoy reading, writing, gardening, cooking, sewing, knitting and helping others. I have worked for pay. Now I work at caring for my home, my MJ, and our cats. Our sons are older, one is in his first year of college, and the other is in Marine boot camp.

Reading here it is quite possible you will learn more about me than you ever care to. My views are a bit off to some it seems.

I run a Christian web site, based on Faith, Family and Frugality I believe these values go hand in hand with each other. I head cover, and wear only dresses; this is a fairly new adventure for me, having been convicted to do this just over a year ago. I also own 4 yahoo groups, 2 open to everyone and 2 open to folks who live in my vicinity.

One thing you need to know up front. Though I am a Christian, I am far from perfect. I will mess up, oh my how I will mess up! I will however be honest, even if it pains me to be so. I do try to be nice and treat all with respect, but some days my evil twin does sneak out and I let go a mean comment or 5.

I ask that on those days you bear with me, and remember that though Christian, I am still human, and not as good a one as I ought to be, I am after all still learning, just like everyone else.

One of the things that has become a some what obsessive thing with me lately is organization and home keeping. I do my work and my play in 15 minute cycles and have a yahoo group based on this concept. I did try fly lady, and she just did not flip my switch. However the 15 minute thing intrigued me and so I kept it and tossed the rest. Once I discovered the trick, I can do anything FOR 15, not IN 15, I was off and running (barefoot thank you very much!).

Now I am building a home keeping binder. Simply put it is a tool, inexpensive to create, to help me track what I do during the 24 hours a day God gives me. I am positive I can make better use of my time than I have been, and this is a step in overcoming my habit of staring at walls wondering where to begin the next thing. It will also house favorite recipes, and a price book, as well as a small pad of addresses (like for my son in boot!) So I can shoot of a note in a flash. I do not have small children and do not home school and so I KNOW I have much wasted time staring at the walls.

Well dear hearts it is now 1130 here in TX and my mind is fuzzy and so I will say good night and try to think of something nice and not to shocking to say tomorrow!

Hugs

mel